By Rebecca Kerzner
This month has seriously been a whirlwind! 🍃 Hasn’t it? I hope you have all been holding up alright with midterms and what-not. For me, this month has been a blur of sunrise wakeups🌅, floral dresses🌺, mini freak-outs about the future after graduation😩, and new friends👯. Beyond the blur though, I’ve had the pleasure of connecting with so many different interesting men and women across the campuses in pursuit of Perspective related things. Our student body is really brimming with hilarious and creative ideas for engaging content! In addition to the laughs though, I’ve also taken pleasure in more serious conversations. It’s so fulfilling for Perspective to be providing a space for such conversations and it really makes me so happy when old and new friends approach me to tell me how much they love Perspective. 💞
As I looked through the article’s we released in this lovely month of November, I thought about one of Perspective’s missions of creating a community on YU’s Beren campus. I found myself questioning this idea. What is a community? And how do we actually create one through an online platform? 🤔
Communities are created in many ways. Take Stern for example (obviously). We make events for clubs so girls with like minded ideas and feelings can come together in their passions. We try to find our niches, be it in the Feminist Club, TAC Board, Student Council, NCSY Shabbatonim, or even on the caf store staff. We’re always looking to find new ways to bring the student body together as we try to take advantage of the college experience — because there really is no other time when so many women with different backgrounds and stories of their own are brought together for four continuous years. 📚
Still, even with all the amazing clubs and opportunities we have here, I believe there is a need for more. I find so many girls who feel forgotten about and judged by their peers. They talk about the stares they get in the elevator, the way our school filters and glorifies the perfect poster child, and how they really feel like they are being constantly whispered about behind their backs. We feel as though we are different, and those differences prevent us from connecting with others. On this campus, we are prone to highlighting how we differ from others.
But for the purpose of this article, I’d like to highlight how similar we all are. 💁
First, the obvious one. We are all Jewish. We all know the same prayers, the same holidays, and we all share this intrinsic identity. Secondly, we all go to school in Midtown Manhattan. We can all understand the trials and tribulations of long subway rides, the sloshing of our boots in the snow when it turns dark and gross, and the joy that we feel when the sun comes out to share some of it’s warmth. With this similarity, we can share with each other cool stores we’ve found nearby, our favorite restaurants, and the best college student discounts New York has to offer. Thirdly, since we are in the same school, we share the same teachers and have taken some of the same courses. We can swap notes with each other, participate in a rant or a raving about a specific teacher, or look up important info on Stern in the Know. But, being that these similarities are based off of external factors, they only go skin deep.
But let’s go deeper, to an internal level. There are so many internal things we have in common with each other, and I think many of us deal with more of the same issues than we realize. We all have friendships and emotions and life happenings. We all know what it feels like to be let down by a friend, or get our hopes up about a guy we think is cute, or feel the need to just watch a tv show alone in our dorm room, and laugh off the stress of college cumulative testing. We may spend our time doing different activities on the weekends and surround ourselves with different people, but we must realize that we also inevitably share these more personal experiences. When we are open to recognizing how similar we all are, we are able to see our surroundings differently and connect with peers in a deeper way.
We humans rely on relationships with others to survive. Ever since the beginning of time, homosapiens have connected through the life experiences, just by merely living and existing! November’s issue embraces our shared Stern and YU experiences, both externally and internally. We are all young college students, going through a process of change and growth, through pain, through joy, and through existing on campus together. 🤗
So, please enjoy these articles, laugh away, and maybe even get inspiration and insight from them! And just think, that for every article you enjoy and smile at, there is a student sitting in his or her bed all the way across campus in a room in 35th street, 36th street, Schott, or even Washington Heights, enjoying the very same article, despite all extraneous differences. 🙌
I leave this letter with a quote that I found that I think is quite fitting.
☀️“Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame, by an encounter with another human being” ☀️ ~Albert Schweitzen ~
Have an AMAZING month!